Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Monday, November 22, 2010
what happens when you sleep??
SLEEP
Would you like to know what happens when you sleep??
Allaah says in the Qur'aan:
It is Allaah that takes the souls (of men) at death; and those that die not
(He takes) during their sleep: those on whom He has passed the decree of
death, He keeps back (from returning to life),but the rest He sends (to
their bodies) for a term appointed.Verily in this are Signs for those who
reflect.
Qur'aan, Chapter 39 verse 42
This means: every time you sleep, Allaah takes your souls,amongst many other
souls he takes during sleeping. Then Allaah decides who is going to be given
another chance. For those who are blessed with another chance, Allaah will
permit their souls to go back to their bodies, the rest he keeps back from
returning to life i.e.they die.
This means: each time you go to bed you should never be sure you will get up
again, you ONLY have 50% chance for coming back to life. This means: each
time you go to bed you should be
prepared for your hereafter.
This means: when you wake up the next day you should appreciate how lucky
(blessed) you are. And say "Blessed be the one who returned my soul to my
body, and granted me another chance". This is what the prophet PBUH used to
say when he wakes up. This means: when you wake up the next day you should
make sure you utilize the new day as much as you can before sleep time
comes,in case the new day you are living is the last chance you are given.
This means: you should try to make sure you recite sura AL-MULK (chapter 67)
before sleeping, because the prophet PBUH promised that one who reads this
sura before sleeping is saved from the punishment of the grave.May Allaah
forgive us all and bless us with a happy life in this dunya and the
hereafter.
MAY ALLAAH REWARD & BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
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Aish - The Fairy Princess
The Etiquette of Looking in Islam...
The Etiquette of Looking in IslamAmong the most serious that a Muslim must become aware of, is to know what is lawful for him or her to look at and what is not. This is more pressing in the case of Muslims who live in a non-Muslim society, where they are constantly exposed to indecent exposures of both men and women, in the streets, television, magazines, etc. Indeed the eye is the window to the feelings, and a lustful look carries the message of desire and fornication. This is why looking at the opposite sex is regulated by the Islamic Shariah, where the rules depend on whether they are Mahram (plural Maharim) or not. This refers to women with whom a man has a specified degree of relationship that precludes marriage. The Etiquette of Men Looking at Mahram WomenA man is allowed to look at women who are his Mahram, but only at what is usually exposed of their body for the necessity of work inside the house, such as the head, the hands, the feet, the neck, as Allaah (SWT) says, "And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and guard their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands posses, or male servants who lack vigor, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex…" (An Nur 24:31) However, one should not look at what is usually covered such as the knees, the breasts, the armpits, etc. This means that the woman should be decently clothed while in presence of her Mahram men. Etiquette of Men Looking at Non-Mahram WomenIt is forbidden for a man to look at women who are strangers to him (i.e. who are outside the Mahram relationship). He should lower his gaze as Allaah (SWT) ordered him, "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). that is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All-Aware of what they do." (An-Nur 24:30) Adolescent boys (and even younger ones), who can distinguish between a beautiful woman and a less beautiful one, and can appreciate women's physical attributes, should be taught to lower their gaze. This protects them from getting their sexual desires aroused. It is said to hear people saying that there is no harm in an innocent look, especially in the case of teenagers, with the idea that this may somewhat extinguish their sexual desire. On the contrary, a lustful look may lead to a greater sin, as the Prophet (SAW) said, "It is written on the son of Adam his lot of zina (fornication/adultery), that will inevitably afflict him: The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the ears is hearing, the zina of the tongue is talking, the zina of the hand is assaulting, and the zina of the foot is walking; the heart desires and wishes, and the genitals affirm or deny." (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) In fact, lowering the gaze is a good deed a Muslim is rewarded for. The Prophet (SAW) said, "No Muslim whose eyesight falls inadvertently on the beauties of a woman and then lowers his gaze, but Allah will credit for him a worship he will appreciate its sweetness in his heart." (Ahmad and Al-Tabarani) While the first inadvertent look is no sin on him, the young man should be taught not to follow it with another, as the Prophet (SAW) said to Ali Ibn Abi Talib (RA), "O Ali! Do not let the second look follow the first. The first look is allowed to you but not he second." (Al-Tirmidhi, Ahmad & Abu Dawud) The Etiquette of Men Looking at Other Men and Women Looking at Other WomenA man is not allowed to look at another man's awrah [i.e., his body area from the navel to the knees (these two parts included)] as the Prophet (SAW) said, "A man should not look at the awrah of another man nor a woman of another woman, nor should a man go under one cloth with another man, nor a woman with another woman." (Muslim) He (SAW) also said to a man he saw uncovering his thigh, "Cover your thigh, for the thigh is awrah." (Al-Hakim) It is clear from this that a man should always cover himself from the navel to the knees in the presence of others, and should not uncover his awrah while swimming or playing sports, or if taking a shower in the presence of others. It is highly recommended to teach boys to cover themselves down to the knees at a young age (from around seven years) so that they grow up with this habit. This rule applies equally to Muslim women looking at other women, whether these are Muslims or disbelievers. It is regretful that you see a Muslim woman allowing herself to look at a disbelieving woman who is bearly clothed, believing this is allowed. Girls should be taught to lower their gaze when they see such scenes, and should learn to cover their awrah at all times, when they are in the presence of other Muslim women, (the awrah of a woman with respect to other Muslim women is the same as the awrah of men, i.e. from the knees to the navel). The Etiquette of Men Looking at Teenage BoysWhile in general, men are allowed to look during usual activities at teenage boys whose beard has not grown yet, they are forbidden to look at them if there is fear of temptation, especially in the case of handsome boys. Looking then becomes unlawful, because this may lead to sexual desire and sexual deviation. Etiquette of Women Looking at MenA woman is allowed to look at men while they are walking on the street, or for the purpose of buying in the market, or other lawful activities, provided that they are properly clothed, with their awrah completely covered. The Prophet (SAW) allowed Aisha (RA) to look at the Abyssinians playing with their spears in the courtyard of his mosque, while she was hiding behind him. She is, however, not allowed to look closely at a man, or have lustful or provocative look, or look deliberately at men when they happen to be in the same setting (such as in a bus, or a room). The reason for this ruling being somewhat more relaxed for women is that usually they are not the ones who initiate a relationship, due to their nature, and that men are usually more daring. The Etiquette of Looking at a Small Child's AwrahThere is a consensus among the scholars that children who are four years old or younger have no awrah, meaning that there is no harm in looking at their naked bodies. The awrah of children over four years is the genitals and the buttocks. When the child's consciousness of sex has developed, or when evidences of sexual urge is noticed on him or her, the awrah limit becomes the same as that of adults and should be treated as such. However, it is better to accustom the child to be properly dressed always. All the rules of prohibition of looking become void in cases of necessity such as in administering first aid or medical treatment or during a trial testimony as the judge requests. Other exceptions are looking at one's spouse, and a man looking at a woman for the prospect of marrying her. A child who is raised in the context of these divine rules of lowering the gaze will no doubt acquire the distinguished Islamic personality, and noble social character. Indeed, there is no better way to teach the child these manners than for the parents to lead the way and set the example for the child to emulate. |
Verily my happiness is my Eiman &verily my Eiman is in my heart & verily my heart does not belong to anyone but Allaah (Asma bint Abu Bakr R.A)
"The power of Eiman is such that once it fills the heart of a true believing Mu'min it is impossible to be removed." (Sahih Bukhari)
"My Lord! truly, I'm in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!" Qur'aan Sura Al Qasas)
And Allaah Knows The Best...
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Aish - The Fairy Princess
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Friday, November 19, 2010
40 Commmon Mistakes in Salaat (part 2)
40 Commmon Mistakes in Salaat
Saalih Bin Abdulaziz Aal-ish-Sheikh
Abu Dawood and others transmit with an authentic chain from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allaah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: Verily the imaam is to be completely followed, so if he makes takbeer then you make takbeer and dont make takbeer until he does so, and if he bows then bow and dont bow until he does so…
Its origin is in the two saheehs and Al-Bukhaari has another like it narrated by Anas. The one who forgets or the one who is ignorant is excused.
7. Standing to complete a missed rakah before the imaam has completely finished making the second tasleem (i.e closing the prayer by saying As-salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullaahi to the right and left).
It is reported in Saheeh Muslim that the Messenger of Allaah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: Do not precede me in the rukoo (bowing) not in the sujood (prostration) nor in going out of the prayer (al-insiraaf).
The scholars have said that the meaning of al-insiraaf is at-tasleem and it is named such because the praying person may leave afterwards and he leaves only after the second tasleem. The one who precedes the imaam should stay in his place until the imaam has completed his salaah, then he should stand and complete whatever he missed, and Allaah knows best.
8. Making the intention for prayer aloud.
This is a bidah (innovation), and we have previously mention the prohibition against bidah.
The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) never made the intention for salaah aloud.
Ibn Al-Qayyim, rahimahullah, stated in "Zaad Al-Maaad" or in "Al-Hudaa An-Nabawiyy": "When the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) would stand for salaah he said: Allaahu Akbar and said nothing else before it nor did he pronounce his intention aloud. Nor did he say: I will pray for Allaah salaah such and such while facing the Qiblah four rakaaat as imaam or follower.
Nor did he say: Fulfilling it on time, not making it up, nor the time of fardh all ten of which are bidah for which no one has reported that he did with an authentic chain, nor even a weak one, nor musnad, nor mursal, nor a single word. Indeed not one narration of the sahaabah or the best of the following generation (taabieen), nor the four imaams."
9. Not reciting Al-Faatihah in the salaah;
The recitation of Al-Faatihah is a pillar (rukn) and the salaah of whoever does not recite it is void.
This is according to the Prophets (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) saying: Whoever makes a salaah wherein Al-Faatihah is not recited then it is khidaaj (miscarried) - and he repeated it three times – incomplete. [Muslim from Abu Hurairah]
However when praying behind the imam , we have to remain silent.
Qur'aan says:
"So, when the Qur'aan is recited, listen to it, and remain silent, that you may receive mercy" (Qur'aan 7:204)
1]The Prophet of Allaah (SAW) taught us that:
"When you stand for prayer then one of you should lead the rest (i.e. Imam), and when the Imam recites remain silent." [Sahih Muslim 1:714, Ahmad, 19224, Ibn Majah 847]
2] Zayd Ibn Thabit (Ra) was asked regarding recitation behind the Imam: "There is no recitation behind the Imam" [Sahih Muslim 1:215]
10. Recitation of the Qur'aan in rukoo (bowing position) or during sujood (prostration).
This is prohibited based on a narration from ibn Abbaas (radiallahu anhu) that the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: I have been prevented from reciting the Qur'aan while bowing or in prostration… [Muslim]
Ali (radiallahu anu) narrates he said: The Messenger of Allaah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam prevented me from reciting the Qur'aan while bowing or prostrating. [Muslim and others]
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Aish - The Fairy Princess
40 Commmon Mistakes in Salaat (part 1)
40 Commmon Mistakes in Salaat
Saalih Bin Abdulaziz Aal-ish-Sheikh
1. Leaving the salaah altogether.
This is indeed kufr (disbelief) and the evidence is found within the Qur'aan the authentic sunnah and the consensus of the ummah.
Allaah taaala states: If they repent and establish the salaah and give the zakaat, they are you brothers in faith (deen). [Al-Qur'aan 9:11]
And Allaah taaala says: What landed you in As-Saqar (Hell)? They said: We were not of those who made salaah (al-musalleen)…[Al-Qur'aan 76:42-43] and so on.
As far as the sunnah: The hadeeth of Jaabir that the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: Between a man and shirk (what protects him from shirk) is the abandonment of salaah. [Muslim]
It is narrated by Abu Dawood, An-Nisaai, Ibn Maajah, and At-Tirmidhi on the authority of Buraidah Ibn Al-Husaib from the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) who said: The covenant between us and them (i.e. the Prophet – and/or his successors -and those who claim to be Muslims) is the salaah so whosoever abandons it has disbelieved. [ Ahmad and others and it is saheeh]
2. Delaying the salaah from its appointed time.
This is a violation according to the word of Allaah taaala: Verily the salaah has been appointed for the believers at specific times (mawqoot). [Al-Qur'aan 4:103] Al-Mawqoot indicates a specific appointed time and the postponement of sallah beyond the obligatory time (fardh) is a major sin and Allaah is the one upon Whom we depend.
If this is the salaah of the hypocrite then what of the salaah of someone who postpones the prayer until the complete period of the salaat has passed without any excuse?
3. Abandonment of the congregational prayer in the masjid by able men either regularly or on occasion.
The commandment has been given to perform the salaah in congregation in the masjid. Congregational (al-jamaaah) salaah is a duty except for those who have a valid excuse according to the shariah.
The Messenger of Allaah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: Whoever hears the call (al-adhaan) and thereafter does not answer it (i.e. attend the congregational salaah) there is no salaah for him except for a valid excuse. [Reported by Ibn Maajah and others with a strong chain (isnaad) and Al-Haafith
Ibn Hajar said "Its chain is according to the conditions of Muslim"].
Allaah taaala also says: And bow down with those who bow down. {Al-Qur'aan 2:43]
4. Lack of tranquility (at-tamaneenah) within the salaat.
This is generally done out of ignorance and it is an open sin because tranquility is a pillar (rukn) of the salaah without which the salaah is incorrect.
The hadeeth about the man who performed his salaah badly is a clear evidence for this. The meaning of tamaneenah (tranquility) is that the one praying is tranquil in the rukoo (bending), standing (itidaal), prostration (sujood), and sitting between the two prostrations (juloos), and he should get in position where every bone settles into place, he should not hasten between portions of the prayer until he has attained tranquility in it and gives each its due time.
The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said to the one who was rushing through his salaah without observing the proper tranquility: Go back and make salaah because you have not made the salaah.
And in the hadeeth of Rifaaah on the story of the one who prayed badly it goes on: Then he makes takbeer and bows and puts his hands on his knees until each joint is settled and relaxed. Then he says samiallaahu liman hamida (Allaah hears the one who praises Him) then stands up straight until each bone is in its place.
5. Lack of proper reverence and humility (khushoo) in the salaat and excess movement therein.
The place of khushoo is in the heart and it is evident in the tranquility of the limbs and humility before Allaah.
Allaah has indeed praised His slave by His statement:Those who offer their salaah with all solemnity and full submissiveness. [Al-Qur'aan 23:2]
It is incumbent. The limbs of the slave in prayer should be still and his heart should be solemn until he may be rewarded for his salaah.
It is narrated on the authority of Ammaar Ibn Yaasir (radiallahu anhu) he said: I heard the messenger of Allaah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) saying: Verily a man leaves after completing his prayer and nothing has been written for him except a tenth of his salaah, a ninth, an eighth, a sixth, a fifth, a fourth, a third, or half of it. [Abu Dawood, An-Nisaai, and others and it is an authentic hadeeth]
The reason for the shortcoming in its reward is the lack of khushoo in the heart of the one who prays or in the limbs.
to be contd...Inshaallaah...
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Aish - The Fairy Princess
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Killing an animal is a ruthless act. Why then do Muslims consume non-vegetarian food?
EATING NON-VEGETARIAN FOOD
'Vegetarianism' is now a movement the world over. Many even associate it with animal rights. Indeed, a large number of people consider the consumption of meat and other non-vegetarian products to be a violation of animal rights.
Islam enjoins mercy and compassion for all living creatures. At the same time Islam maintains that Allah has created the earth and its wondrous flora and fauna for the benefit of mankind. It is upto mankind to use every resource in this world judiciously, as a niyamat (Divine blessing) and amanat (trust) from Allah.
Let us look at various other aspects of this argument.
1. A Muslim can be a pure vegetarian
A Muslim can be a very good Muslim despite being a pure vegetarian. It is not compulsory for a Muslim to have non-vegetarian food.
2. Qur'an permits Muslims to have non-vegetarian food
The Qur'an, however permits a Muslim to have non-vegetarian food. The following Qur'anic verses are proof of this fact:
"O ye who believe! Fulfil (all) obligations. Lawful unto you (for food) are all four-footed animals with the exceptions named."
[Al-Qur'an 5:1]
"And cattle He has created for you (men): from them Ye derive warmth, and numerous benefits, And of their (meat) ye eat."
[Al-Qur'an 16:5]
"And in cattle (too) ye have an instructive example: From within their bodies We produce (milk) for you to drink; there are, in them, (besides), numerous (other) benefits for you; and of their (meat) ye eat."
[Al-Qur'an 23:21]
3. Meat is nutritious and rich in complete protein
Non-vegetarian food is a good source of excellent protein. It contains biologically complete protein i.e. all the 8 essential amino acid that are not synthesized by the body and should be supplied in the diet. Meat also contains iron, vitamin B1 and niacin.
4. Humans have Omnivorous set of teeth
If you observe the teeth of herbivorous animals like the cow, goat and sheep, you will find something strikingly similar in all of them. All these animals have a set of flat teeth i.e. suited for herbivorous diet. If you observe the set of teeth of the carnivorous animals like the lion, tiger, or leopard, they all have a set of pointed teeth i.e. suited for a carnivorous diet. If you analyze the set of teeth of humans, you find that they have flat teeth as well as pointed teeth. Thus they have teeth suited for both herbivorous as well as carnivorous food i.e. they are omnivorous. One may ask, if Almighty God wanted humans to have only vegetables, why did He provide us also with pointed teeth? It is logical that He expected us to need and to have both vegetarian as well as non-vegetarian food.
5. Human beings can digest both vegetarian and non-vegetarian food
The digestive system of herbivorous animals can digest only vegetables. The digestive system of carnivorous animals can digest only meat. But the digestive system of humans can digest both vegetarian and non-vegetarian food. If Almighty God wanted us to have only vegetables then why did He give us a digestive system that can digest both vegetarian as well as non-vegetarian food?
6. Hindu scriptures give permission to have non-vegetarian food
a. There are many Hindus who are strictly vegetarian. They think it is against their religion to consume non-vegetarian food. But the true fact is that the Hindu scriptures permit a person to have meat. The scriptures mention Hindu sages and saints consuming non-vegetarian food.
b. It is mentioned in Manu Smruti, the law book of Hindus, in chapter 5 verse 30
"The eater who eats the flesh of those to be eaten does nothing bad, even if he does it day after day, for God himself created some to be eaten and some to be eater."
c. Again next verse of Manu Smruti, that is, chapter 5 verse 31 says
"Eating meat is right for the sacrifice, this is traditionally known as a rule of the gods."
d. Further in Manu Smruti chapter 5 verse 39 and 40 says
"God himself created sacrificial animals for sacrifice, ...., therefore killing in a sacrifice is not killing."
e. Mahabharata Anushashan Parva chapter 88 narrates the discussion between Dharmaraj Yudhishthira and Pitamah Bhishma about what food one should offer to Pitris (ancestors) during the Shraddha (ceremony of dead) to keep them satisfied. Paragraph reads as follows:
"Yudhishthira said, "O thou of great puissance, tell me what that object is which, if dedicated to the Pitiris (dead ancestors), become inexhaustible! What Havi, again, (if offered) lasts for all time? What, indeed, is that which (if presented) becomes eternal?"
"Bhishma said, "Listen to me, O Yudhishthira, what those Havis are which persons conversant with the rituals of the Shraddha (the ceremony of dead) regard as suitable in view of Shraddha and what the fruits are that attach to each. With sesame seeds and rice and barely and Masha and water and roots and fruits, if given at Shraddhas, the pitris, O king, remain gratified for the period of a month. With fishes offered at Shraddhas, the pitris remain gratified for a period of two months. With the mutton they remain gratified for three months and with the hare for four months, with the flesh of the goat for five months, with the bacon (meat of pig) for six months, and with the flesh of birds for seven. With venison obtained from those deer that are called Prishata, they remaingratified for eight months, and with that obtained from the Ruru for nine months, and with the meat of Gavaya for ten months, With the meat of the bufffalo their gratification lasts for eleven months. With beef presented at the Shraddha, their gratification, it is said , lasts for a full year. Payasa mixed with ghee is as much acceptable to the pitris as beef. With the meat of Vadhrinasa (a large bull) the gratification of pitris lasts for twelve years. The flesh of rhinoceros, offered to the pitris on anniversaries of the lunar days on which they died, becomes inexhaustible. The potherb called Kalaska, the petals of kanchana flower, and meat of (red) goat also, thus offered, prove inexhaustible.
So but natural if you want to keep your ancestors satisfied forever, you should serve them the meat of red goat.
7. Hinduism was influenced by other religions
Though Hindu Scriptures permit its followers to have non-vegetarian food, many Hindus adopted the vegetarian system because they were influenced by other religions like Jainism.
8. Even plants have life
Certain religions have adopted pure vegetarianism as a dietary law because they are totally against the killing of living creatures. If a person can survive without killing any living creature, I would be the first person to adopt such a way of life. In the past people thought plants were lifeless. Today it is a universal fact that even plants have life. Thus their logic of not killing living creatures is not fulfilled even by being a pure vegetarian.
9. Even plants can feel pain
They further argue that plants cannot feel pain, therefore killing a plant is a lesser crime as compared to killing an animal. Today science tells us that even plants can feel pain. But the cry of the plant cannot be heard by the human being. This is due to the inability of the human ear to hear sounds that are not in the audible range i.e. 20 Hertz to 20,000 Hertz. Anything below and above this range cannot be heard by a human being. A dog can hear up to 40,000 Hertz. Thus there are silent dog whistles that have a frequency of more than 20,000 Hertz and less than 40,000 Hertz. These whistles are only heard by dogs and not by human beings. The dog recognizes the masters whistle and comes to the master. There was research done by a farmer in U.S.A. who invented an instrument which converted the cry of the plant so that it could be heard by human beings. He was able to realize immediately when the plant itself cried for water. Latest researches show that the plants can even feel happy and sad. It can also cry.
10. Killing a living creature with two senses less is not a lesser crime
Once a vegetarian argued his case by saying that plants only have two or three senses while the animals have five senses.
Therefore killing a plant is a lesser crime than killing an animal. Suppose your brother is born deaf and dumb and has two senses less as compared to other human beings. He becomes mature and someone murders him. Would you ask the judge to give the murderer a lesser punishment because your brother has two senses less? In fact you would say that he has killed a masoom, an innocent person, and the judge should give the murderer a greater punishment.
In fact the Qur'an says:
"O ye people! Eat of what is on earth, lawful and good"
[Al-Qur'an 2:168]
11. Over population of cattle
If every human being was a vegetarian, it would lead to overpopulation of cattle in the world, since their reproduction and multiplication is very swift. Allah (swt) in His Divine Wisdom knows how to maintain the balance of His creation appropriately. No wonder He has permitted us to have the meat of the cattle.
12. Cost of meat is reasonable since all aren't non-vegetarians
I do not mind if some people are pure vegetarians. However they should not condemn non-vegetarians as ruthless. In fact if all Indians become non-vegetarians then the present non-vegetarians would be losers since the prices of meat would rise.
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Aish - The Fairy Princess
Sunday, June 20, 2010
WHITE WOMEN VS INDIAN WOMEN
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THIS IS WELL WORTH READING GUYS
White woman's opinion of Indian women & an Indian brother's response.
Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this Indian man.
Enjoy.
It seems that an article was written in Sister 2 Sister magazine by A Caucasian woman who requested a response from Indian men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more)!!! She wrote:
Dear Jamie,
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Indian male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Indian female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly Approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us, White women, Because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Indian men, Let me know.
Thanx-Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA!!!
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Indian man. I Graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia With a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at A major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I Consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Indian men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were raised in strict homes. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Indian women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone We can control.
I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black/Indian women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Indian women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't Want a "Disgusted White girl" to be misinformed, Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Indian Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the Indian woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.
It was the Indian woman that taught you how to raise your children.
It was Indian women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the Indian woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
INDIAN women were born with two strikes against them: being Indian and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Indian women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Indian Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them.
It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Indian women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy And envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have What the Indian woman has...
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can Walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Indian Royalty
Wow!! Please pass this on to all the INDIAN QUEENS ....and INDIAN KINGS
Be proud of your women... ..... Appreciate their greatness.......!!!!
"What lies behind us and What lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us"
MEN! LOVE YOUR WOMEN FOR THEY ARE YOUR GEMS..