Sunday, December 26, 2010

Mother's Status In Islam..

All praise is for Allaah and peace and blessings be upon the Prophet Muhammad SAW.

After Allaah and His Messenger, the most beloved and respected person to any Muslim should be his Mother.

Allaah has given the mother such status that Rasulullaah SAW says: (mafhum) "Paradise lies under the feet of mothers."

Obedience and respect towards your mother is a very important duty in Islam and is similar to performing Salat and keeping fast. To hurt your mother in any way is the second biggest sin and those who commit this evil sin will be harshly punished by Allaah in the Hereafter or maybe even in this world.

WHY?

Your mother is not a Prophet, nor is she an angel. She is just a human being like you. So why has Allaah ordered you to be obedient towards your mother, and why does your mother have such a high status in Islam?

Allaah loves and cares for us more than anybody else, and he especially loves those people who love and care for others. Similarly, Allaah's Wrath fall upon those people who hurt other people in any way? Allaah the All-Knowing knows that in this world nobody is more loving and caring towards another person than the way that a mother is towards her child. Only Allaah and Rasulullaah SAW love you more than your mother!

Only Allaah knows what your mother does for you. Allaah sees your mother feeling pain whilst she tries to give you whatever you want. Allaah sees your mother’s love and kindness. Pleased by your mother's actions, Allaah has given her a very high status and many virtues and rewards. Allaah also sees that many of us are not thankful to our mothers. Allaah sees many of us being disobedient towards our mothers.

Therefore, Allaah has ordered us to be good towards our mothers. Allaah has not advised us; but Allaah has ordered us! We have no choice; therefore we have to be good towards our mothers.

To encourage us to do this, Allaah has promised Paradise for those of us who are obedient towards our mothers.

At the same time, Allaah has threatened to severely punish those of us who do not listen to our mothers, or hurt them in any way.

But what does your mother do for you?
She only cooks and cleans?
What - just that???
So why do you need to be thankful to your Mother?
Apart from Allaah, nobody knows what our mother really does for us.

TEN REASONS FOR BEING THANKFUL TO YOUR MOTHER:

1. Your mother carried you in her womb for nine months bearing pain upon pain.
2. During this time, she could not eat nor sleep - because of you.
3. When you were a baby, and then a child, she spent every minute of her life looking after you.
4. She only slept when you slept. She only ate after you had eaten.
5. She was patient and loved you even when you cried all night; when you cried all day.
6. She taught you how to walk; how to speak; how to eat; how to live.
7. When you fall ill, she looks after you.
8. She always cooks and prepares food for you..
9. She buys you the things you ask for.
10. She will always love you, no matter what you do.

These are just a few things that our mothers do for us. They do so much more; more things we do not know about. And one thing that your Mother does for you, that nobody else in the world does, is that she worries about you from the bottom of her heart.

SO WHAT ARE THE THINGS SHE WORRIES ABOUT?
1. She worries about your food.
2. She worries about your clothes.
3. She worries about your health.
4. She worries about your education.
5. She worries about your future.
6. She worries about your whole life.

Allaah has ordered us, in various places of the Holy Qur'aan, to be good to our mothers. Allaah has told us to look after them even more when they are old and weak. Allaah has taught us to be gentle to our mothers and speak to them in a nice manner.

Allaah has also told us to supplicate to Him for our mothers with this prayer: "Rabbir-Hamhuma Kama Rabbayani Sagheerah." ("My Lord - have Mercy upon my parents; the way they had Mercy upon me when I was young.")

The Prophet Muhammad SAW has also ordered us to be good to our mothers. The Prophet SAW has told us about the great rewards for that person who is good to his mother. He (SAW) has described the mother as being a 'Door of Paradise'.

Rasulullaah SAW has also warned us of severe punishments for that person who is disobedient to his mother.

TEN EASY WAYS TO ENTER PARADISE
1. Listen to your mother.
2. Help your mother.
3. Smile at your mother.
4. Be thankful to your mother for whatever she does for you.
5. Spend time with your mother.
6. Always ask your mother if you can help her with anything.
7. Buy your mother gifts.
8. Be good to your mother's family and friends.
9. Lead a good and exemplary life so that your mother is happy.
10. Always make du'a for your mother, especially after every Salat.

THOSE WHO ARE DISOBEDIENT TO THEIR MOTHER WILL BURN IN THE FIRE OF JAHANNAM (HELL FIRE)

However hard we try, we can never repay our mothers for what they have done for us; but we can at least do as much as we can, and also ask Allaah to repay them for us. Our mothers are indeed a great blessing from Allaah. We should greatly appreciate and value this blessing. Whilst our mothers are alive, we have a golden opportunity to guarantee ourselves Paradise and also success in this world.
We will only truly realize the value and status of our mothers when they are no longer with us.

 
May Allah Give us Strength to be obedient to our mothers. 

This article dedicated to my Dearest Mom - I love u mom....muaaahhhh :) 



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Saturday, December 25, 2010

WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IN FOLLOWING SITUATIONS -2




In the name of Allaah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate
 
"May the Peace and Blessings of Allaah be Upon You"

 

Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
 
  
Bismillaah Walhamdulillaah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillaah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullaahi Wa-Barakaatuhu
 
  
 
 
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WHAT YOU SHOULD DO

IN THE FOLLOWING SITUATIONS

 

English Translation

Book by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

(part 8)


 Being informed of the correct direction of the qiblah whilst praying

If there is a congregation praying, and during their prayer they are informed that the qiblah is in a direction other than that which they were facing, they should all turn towards the correct direction. The same is also true for someone praying individually. Whatever part of their prayer has been performed (before changing direction) will be correct.

 

The evidence for this is a narration reported by Imaam Muslim from Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him): "While the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was praying towards Bayt-al-Maqdis (Jerusalem), the aayah was revealed to him (interpretation of the meaning): Verily! We have seen the turning of your face towards the heaven. Surely, We shall turn you to a qiblah that shall please you, so turn your face in the direction of al-Masjid al-Haram.[Al-Baqarah 2:144]. 

A man from Bani Salamah was passing by and found them (i.e., the people of Bani Salamah) in the state of rukoo in the second rakah of the Fajr prayer. He called out to them: The qiblah has been changed, so they changed direction while they were still in rukoo." (Saheeh Muslim, No. 527)

 

If someone does not know the direction of the qiblah, he must ask someone if he can, or else he should make ijtihaad (make a judgment to the best of his ability based on the information available) if he is able to, otherwise he must follow someone who is reliable. If he cannot find such a person, then he should fear Allaah, do his best and pray, and his prayer is valid. 

     Falling behind when praying in congregation

If a person is praying in a congregation and the loudspeaker stops working or he becomes drowsy and he lags behind the imaam by one or more obligatory acts (arkaan) of prayer (i.e., the imaam performed it and he did not because of not hearing the imaams voice), then when he wakes up again or the sound of the speaker comes back, he should complete the obligatory acts that he has missed, then continue following the imaam.

 This problem may arise in many cases. For example: the imaam recites a verse that contains the word of prostration (sajdah) and some of the people misunderstand it to be a verse of prostration while in reality it is not, so when the imaam says takbeer for rukoo at the end of the verse and performs rukoo, some of the followers (especially those towards the rear of the congregation) take it to be the takbeer for the prostration of recital, so they prostrate. When the imaam stands up from the rukoo saying "sami-Allaahu li man hamidah", they stand up from their prostration, thus having missed the act of rukoo and standing up from it. So it is incumbent on them to complete what they missed and then catch up with the imaam. This is because they did not do it intentionally. However, in the case of one who intentionally lags behind the imaam (e.g., someone who prolongs his prostration to make a long supplication such that he misses the obligatory act which comes after the prostration), the majority of scholars say that the prayer of someone who misses two consecutive obligatory acts of prayer without a valid excuse, is void and he is a sinner. (Kashshaaf al-Qinaa, 1/467; al-Mawsooah al-Fiqhiyyah, 6/29). 

However, the principle is that the imaam must be followed, as the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The imaam is there to be followed, so do not differ from him. When he goes into rukoo, make rukoo. When he says "Sami-Allaahu li man hamidah" (Allaah hears the one who praises Him), say "Rabbanaa lakal-hamd" (O our Lord! To You belongs the Praise). When he goes into sajdah, make sajdah. If he prays sitting, then all should pray sitting." (Saheeh al-Bukhaari, no. 689)

          When the imaam nullifies his wudoo

If the Imaam nullifies his wudoo whilst he is praying, or remembers during the prayer that he did not perform ablution, then he should come out from prayer and appoint someone to finish leading the prayer, as was narrated from Umar, Ali, Alqamah and Ataa. If he does not appoint anyone, and the people pray individually, this is also acceptable, and this is the opinion taken by Imaam Al-Shaafii .If he brings someone forward to lead them, that is also permitted.

 The evidence for this is what has been narrated regarding Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) when he was stabbed: he took the hand of Abd al-Rahmaan bin Awf and made him step forward, and he led the prayer to completion. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, Fath, 7/60). 

The reason for this deduction is that Umar did this in the presence of a number of Companions and others and no one opposed this act, so it became a consensus (ijmaa). (Ahkaam al-Imaamah, al-Muneef, p. 234).

 If the imaam remembers that he is not in a state of purity, he should indicate to the people to remain as they are and go and purify himself, then come back, say "Allaahu akbar" and lead them in prayer. This is valid. The evidence for this is the report narrated byAbu Dawood from Abu Bakrah: "The Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) started to lead the fajr prayer, then he indicated to the people that they should stay in their places. Then he came back and water was dripping from his head." (Sunan Abi Dawood, no. 233; Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, 1/45.

 Abu Dawood included a chapter entitled Fil-Junub yusalli bil-qawmi wa huwa naasin (One who inadvertently leads the people in prayer when in a state of janaabah)).

 Commenting on this hadeeth, Imaam Al-Khattaabi said: "In this hadeeth there is evidence that if one is leading the people in prayer while in a state of janaabah and the people do not know of it, then their prayer is unaffected and there is no need for them to repeat it. But the Imaam has to repeat his prayer." (Sunan Abi Dawood wa maahu Maaalim al-Sunan by al-Khattaabi, edited by al-Daaas, 1/159.)

         When the imaams awrah becomes uncovered

If someone is praying in congregation behind the imaam and sees his awrah (those parts of the body that must be covered) uncovered due to an opening in his clothes or due to his clothes being thin and transparent, then if it is possible he should go ahead and cover it with something, otherwise he should come out of his prayer and inform the imaam by saying "cover your awrah" (in Arabic "ghattil-awrah"), or "protect what has been uncovered". 

He should not stay quiet and continue to pray because it is known that the imaams prayer (in this condition) is incorrect and following him is incorrect as well. (From the oral fataawa of Shaykh Abd al-Azeez ibn Baaz).

 to be continued.... Inshaallaah..

 





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WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IN FOLLOWING SITUATIONS...





In the name of Allaah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate
 
"May the Peace and Blessings of Allaah be Upon You"

 

Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
 
  
Bismillaah Walhamdulillaah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillaah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullaahi Wa-Barakaatuhu 
 
 
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WHAT YOU SHOULD DO

IN THE FOLLOWING SITUATIONS

 

English Translation

Book by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

(part 7)

Not hastening unduly to join a prayer in progress

If the prayer starts and a person is still on his way to the mosque, he should not hasten unduly; he should walk with calmness and dignity, as indicated in the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him): "The Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: If the prayer starts, do not approach it running; approach it walking with calmness and dignity. Whatever you catch up with, pray, and whatever you miss, complete it [afterwards].'" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, Fath, 2/390).

            Breaking wind during a congregational prayer

If a man breaks wind during a congregational prayer, what should he do in this embarrassing situation?

 He should put his hand over his nose, and go out. The evidence for this was reported by Aaishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), who said: "The Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: If one of you passes wind whilst he is praying, he should hold his nose and leave.'" (Sunan Abi Dawood, 1114; see also Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, 985). 

Al-Teebi said: "The command to hold ones nose is to make it appear as though one is bleeding. This is not lying; it is a form of action that is allowed so that Shaytaan will not convince a person in this situation not to leave because he feels too shy of others." (Mirqaat al-Mafaateeh Sharh Mishkaat al-Masaabeeh, 3/18).


This is an example of the kind of ambiguity that is allowed and approved of, in order to avoid embarrassment, as whoever sees him leaving in this manner will assume that he is suffering a nosebleed. Another benefit of this Prophetic advice is that it puts a stop to the insinuating whispers of the Shaytaan, which may otherwise cause him to stay in the row or continue praying with the congregation when he has passed wind, and this does not please Allaah. How can he stay when the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) has commanded him to leave?

 In this case he is permitted either to pass through the rows, or to walk to the edge of the mosque, in order to leave, so that he can go and make wudoo' then come back and rejoin the prayer.

 When one has already prayed and comes to another mosque to find the people there praying

If a person has already prayed in one mosque, then he comes to another mosque for a lesson or for some other reason, and finds the people there praying, then he should join them and his prayer would be considered a naafil (supererogatory or "extra") prayer. He should do so even if it is during the prohibited times of prayer because there is a reason behind it. 

The evidence for this comes from the hadeeth of Yazeed ibn al-Aswad (may Allah be pleased with him): "I performed Hajj with the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and prayed Fajr with him in Masjid Al-Khayf. When he completed his prayer and turned around, he found two people at the back who did not pray with him. He said, I have to talk to them. So he came to them, and they were trembling. He asked them: What prevented you two from praying with us? 

They said: O Messenger of Allaah(saws)! We had already prayed in our places. 

Hesaid: Do not do that. If you have already prayed at your places and then came to a congregational mosque, pray with them too and it will become a supererogatory prayer for you.'" (Sunan Al-Tirmidhi, no. 219; Saheeh al-Jaami, 667)


 to be continued....  Inshaallaah.
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Thursday, December 16, 2010

Gheebah: A Disgusting Sin...



In the name of Allaah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate
 
"May the Peace and Blessings of Allaah be Upon You"

 

Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
 
  
Bismillaah Walhamdulillaah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillaah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullaahi Wa-Barakaatuhu
 
 

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Now what does Gheebah mean?

Gheebah comes from the root: Gha-Yaa-Baa, meaning that which is unseen. 
In Arabic, backbiting,slandering, or any misuse of the tongue is Gheebah. 
Gheebah is to talk about your brother or sister in such a manner that he or she would dislike it if told to on their face. Gheebah is one of the major sins in Islam because it hurts others and destroys their self-esteem.
In the following you can see that the prophet (s.a.w.s) has clearly defined Gheebah (backbiting) for us, so that we can identify and keep away from this terrible sin.

Abu Huraira (r.a.) narrated that the Prophet (s.a.w.s) said, â€œDo you know what is backbiting?â€� They (the companions) said: “Allaah and His Messenger (saws) know best. Thereupon he (the Prophet) (saws) said: “Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like.â€� It was said to him: “What if what I say about my brother is true?â€� He said: “If what you said about him is true then you would have backbitten him, and if it is not true, then he is slandered (buhtaan) 
[Reported in Saheeh Muslim: hadeeth 1183, Sahih Muslim: Book 31, Number 6265, Abu Dawud, Ahmad, Tirmidhi, others...] 


and in Another Hadith Al-Muttalib ibn Abdullah said, "The Messenger of Allaah (saws) said, Gheebah (gossip, backbiting) means that a man mentions about a person something which is true, behind his back."
[Al_Suyuti, Zawaid Al Jami from the report of al Khara'iti in Masawi Al Akhlaq. Malik reported something similar with a Mursal Isnad as mentioned in Al-Sahihah, No. 1992]
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Narrated Aisha, Ummul Muminin: I said to the Prophet (s.a.w.s): It is enough for you in Safiyyah that she is such and such (the other version than Musaddads has:) meaning that she was short-statured. He replied; You have said a word which would change the sea if it were mixed in it... 
[Sunan Abu Dawud: Book 41, Number 4857]

We all indulge in Gheebah without realizing it but, we tend to realize how painful and horrible it is only when we become victim (the one who is back bitten) to it.

Before I started researching about Gheebah, I was very careless about this sin, many times to the point of not being bothered or not caring to attempt to keep away from it. But I realized the dreadful part only when someone spoke about me. I realized the feeling of the people who I spoke of must have endured.

Therefore we should remember that when we commit Gheebah we sacrifice the honor of our brothers and sisters.
I go further with the point of Gheebah being wrong by pointing out what Allaah says in the Holy Qur'aan.

“O, you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; in deeds some suspicions are sins. And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear God, verily, God is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful. 
( Surah Al Hujurat 49: 12) 


Surah Humazah in the Holy Qur'aan, describes clearly that, one who indulges in Gheebah is in clear error and in great loss.

1. Woe to every slanderer and backbiter.
2. Who has gathered wealth and counted it,
3. He thinks that his wealth will make him last forever!
4. Nay! Verily, he will be thrown into the crushing Fire.
5. And what will make you know what the crushing Fire is?
6. The fire of AllÃah, kindled,
7. Which leaps up over the hearts,
8. Verily, it shall be closed in on them,
9. In pillars stretched forth (i.e. they will be punished in the Fire with pillars, etc.).

These verses tell us about the terrible punishment, that befall on the Muslim who commits Gheebah.

An Islamic speaker once said, â€œEven in our thought, one should honor his brother or sister in Islam €�. It is obvious that we as Muslim should be loving and compassionate with one another.
Gheebah is a disgusting sin, definitely one of the biggest, and evilest wreckers of this compassion, love and brotherhood.
What we also fail to realize is that Gheebah will wash away our good deeds and our good deeds would be snatched from us and given to one who we spoke ill off on the Day of Judgement. 

The prophet (saws) said: 
We will have survived all of the horrible trials, the judgement, the bridge, and the huge thorns which snatch us according to our deeds and throw us into Hell. 
(Sahih Bukhari: Volume 8, Book 76, Number 577).


We will have been through all this, only to lose all our good deeds because we could not or would not control our tongue.

This boneless flesh called  tongue €� is playing games and showing its stunt. It is not funny… We might be so lenient to this but in the sight of Allaah it is one of the most hated thing.

The Prophet (saws) says that Allaah is the Judge of Judges and that no one can judge anyone as Allaah does. If one is judgmental, he is making himself into a judge with no authority from the Judge of Judges. When one says: "So-and-so is a no-good person," we should remember that we are not the judge of our Lords servants; He created them and He judges them as He wills! We should remember, whoever ignores this point is competing with Allaah and taking his attribute of Al Haakem (The Judge) and setting himself as partner against Allaah. What a grave mistake!

Allaah teaches us to speak out against Slander and try to put a stop to it in the following verse:
And why did you not, when you heard it, say? "It is not right of us to speak of this: Glory to Allaah, this is a most serious slander" (Surah An Nur 24:16)

Gheebah is indeed a disgusting sin worse than Zina (fornication). It can be done so easily, any moment, any time, whereas Zina is a sin were one cannot engage as easily as Gheebah.


However, we should also understand that under some circumstances a person is allowed to talk about his brother or sisters.

The following are the only circumstances where one is allowed to talk about his brother or sister in islam

1. If the person is being oppressed. In this case you are allowed to talk about the person who oppresses so that the oppressed may take what is rightfully his. He should only talk out of necessity and only to the one who can assist the oppressed person in taking his right from the oppressor.

2. Requesting a fatwa (Islamic ruling). For example, you may say "my brother did such and such (recalling the event), what do I do?" It is permitted to recall the incident and not mentioning the name of the person (this is better) so that a fatwa may be obtained.

3. When seeking marriage, setting up a business or being a witness. If a man asked another about a third person who has proposed it is permitted for the one being asked to say what he knows about the one who has proposed. When talking about him (the one seeking marriage) the one who knows him should be honest about what he says, without diminishing the persons value nor exaggerating his faults.

4. Cautioning people about bad/evil-doers. If a person propagates forbidden or evil, or something which contains shirk, it is permitted to warn people about that person until they are convinced about the misleading information.

5. If a person openly commits evil or follows bidah, such as drinking alcohol and seizing peoples wealth unlawfully, it is permissible to speak of what he is doing openly, but it is not permissible to speak against him any other way, unless it is for another reason.

6. For identification, if someone is known by a nickname such as the dim-sighted one, or the blind man or the one-eyed or the lame one, it is permissible to identify him as such, but it is haraam to mention that by way of belittling him, and if it is possible to identify him in some other way, that is better.


These are few circumstances under which backbiting (which sole intent is to provide TRUE information only by God fearing souls) is permitted and has certain conditions which should be fulfilled. Purity of intention to Allaah (swt). He should not talk about the faults of a man (who has proposed to a woman) because of envy or dislike. It is a responsibility and a trust which Allaah has ordered.

Lastly, after knowing what backbiting is, knowing its dangers and the severity of the sin we should repent to Allaah for those actions before there is no chance left. We should constantly remind ourselves that when Judgment Day comes, the one who has backbitten shall have his good deeds taken away from him and given to the one whom he has harmed by backbiting. If his good deeds have been exhausted, the other persons (the one who was harmed) bad deeds will be taken and given to the one who backbit. The one who indulged in Gheebah will be dragged by the face and taken to the fire.

All of our organs-; tongue, heart, mind, etc- will be a witness against us, we should repent before the Day comes when we will regret what we have done. Perfect repentance is to regret the action we have committed against our Muslim brother, and to stay away from it in future. We should commit ourselves not to ever return to that action. If we remember those whom we have backbitten before knowing the reality of these and the severity of the punishment for the one who indulges in this sin then we should supplicate for that person( who we back bitten) in their absence.
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Reasons why people fall into the sin of backbiting others

1. Weakness of faith and impiety make a person likely to speak thoughtlessly and carelessly and transgress against others when he speaks.

When Aishah was accused of impropriety, her co-wife Zaynab bint Jahsh was asked about her. Zaynab said: O Messenger of Allaah(saws)! I safeguard my hearing and my sight. I know nothing but good.â€�

Aishah later commented: She was my rival among the wives of Allaahs Messenger (peace be upon him). Allaah restrained her by way of her piety.� [Sahi al-Bukhari (2661)]


2. Another reason that people participate in backbiting is on account of the company they keep. They backbite people to please their peers and acquaintances. Allaah says, conveying to us the words of the denizens of Hell: We used to speak in vain with those who speak in vain.â€� [Sirah al-Mudaththir: 45]


3. Another reason is hatred, enmity, and envy towards others. Ibn Taymiyah says: Some people are inspired by envy to backbite, and in doing so, combine between two ignoble traits: backbiting and envy.â€�


4. Love of the world and the pursuit of status and power make people backbite others. Fudayl b. Iyad said: No one has ever loved leadership without envying, transgressing, tracking down the faults of others, and loathing to hear anyone else mentioned in a good way.�


How to rid ourselves of this ignoble trait

1. We can protect ourselves from speaking ill of others by cultivating our fear of Allaah and our sense of shame before of our Lord. This can be achieved by reflecting often upon the verses of the Qura'an and the hadith of our Prophet (peace be upon him) that speak about Allaahs punishment, that encourage us to repent, and that warn us against evil deeds.

Allaah says: Or do they think that We do not hear their secrets and their private counsels? Indeed we do and our messengers are by them to record.â€� [Surah al-Zukhruf: 80]

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Feel shame before Allaah as you ought to feel shame before him. So guard the head and what it contains, guard the stomach and what you put in it, and think upon death and returning to dust.â€� [Sunan al-Tirmidhi (2458)]


2. We can reflect upon just how much we lose every time we utter some bad words about another person.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) once asked his Companions: Do you know who is bankrupt?â€�

They replied: The person among us who is bankrupt is the one who possesses neither money nor provision.�

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: The one who is bankrupt from among my followers is he who comes on the Day of Resurrection with prayer, charity, and fasting to his credit. However, he had insulted this person, struck that person, and seized the wealth of another, on account of which his good deeds will be taken from him. Then, if his good deeds are exhausted, the sins of those whom he wronged will be taken from them and foisted upon him and then he will be cast into the Fire.â€� [Sahih Muslim (2581)]


3. A beneficial remedy that can help us to rid ourselves of this evil habit is to reflect upon our own shortcomings and work to improve ourselves. If we preoccupy ourselves with our own faults, we will not find time to worry about the faults of others. We should fear that if we speak about someone else's shortcomings, that Allaah might punish us by afflicting us with the same. 

Al-Hasan al-Basri said: We used to remind one another that whoever faults his brother on account of a sin and he had repented for it will be punished by Allaah by falling into it himself.â€�

Abu Hurayrah said:One of you sees the dust in his brothers eye but fails to see the crud in his own.�


4. Keeping to the company of righteous people and avoiding bad company helps us to avoid backbiting. 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: The likeness of a good companion and a bad companion is that of a person carrying musk and another who works the bellows. The person carrying musk might give you some of it or at the very least you will enjoy the pleasant scent. The person with the bellows will either singe your clothing or at least make you suffer from the bad smell.â€�[Sahih al-Bukhari (2101) and Sahih Muslim (2628) and the wording is that of Muslim]

Al-Nawawi writes, commenting on this hadith: It discusses the virtues of keeping the company of the righteous and people who carry out good works and possess good manners¦ It prohibits us from the company of people who engage in bad deeds and innovations, those who backbite others, and those who are habitually sinful and idle.â€�


5. A person who has a habit of backbiting others needs to make a firm and determined resolution to stop. 

We can look at the example of Rasul b. Wahb who said: I swore an oath that for every time I backbite someone, I would fast a day. This just wore me out, since I would backbite and fast. Then I resolved that for every time I backbite someone, I would spend one silver coin in charity. Then, for the love of money, I gave up backbiting.â€� 



Also Watch : 


Backbiting is permitted in Six Conditions ? Dr Zakir Naik 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_IzxVdx0urw


Suspicion, Backbiting In Islam - Ayah from Surah Hujurat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ufD_WzVo6ik

 Compiled by Br.Adil Ahmad Khan...

Note: I sincerely apologise for such a lengthy article but this topic is in the NEED OF TIME...(everyone of us r knowingly & unknowingly r getting trapped in it...






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