1. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah.
Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.
2. Listen and Obey! Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect..
3. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him..
4. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends.".
5. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire..
6. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh..
7. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house. From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband..
8. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband..
9. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him..
10. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband..
11. More Tips -
1. Beautiful Reception
After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,
Begin with a good greeting.
Meet him with a cheerful face
Beautify and perfume yourself
Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested
Receive him with loving and yearning sentences
Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.
Beautify and Soften the Voice
3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
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Take good care of your body and fitness.
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Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
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Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape
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Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes
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Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness
Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
4. Satisfaction
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You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job
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You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people
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You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.
5. Indifference to Worldly Things
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You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
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You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
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Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
6. Appreciation
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By the saying of the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
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The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
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The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: "Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?"
8. Devotion and Loyalty
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In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
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Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
9. Compliance to Him
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In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited
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In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.
10. Pleasing him If he Is Angry
First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:
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If you were mistaken, then apologize
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If he was mistaken then:
Keep still instead of arguing or
Yield you right or
Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
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If he was angry because of external reasons then:
Keep silent until his anger goes
Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him
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Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened e.g.
1) You should tell me what happened!
2) I must know what made you so angry!
3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!
11. Guardianship While he is Absent
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Protect yourself from any prohibited relations
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Keep the secrets of the family, particularly Personal life and things that the husbands don't like other people to know.
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Take care of the house and children.
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Take care of his money and properties
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Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
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Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence
12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
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You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
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You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
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You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife
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Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
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Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home
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Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc...
13. Admirable Jealousy
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Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others disrespecting them, etc…
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You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
14. Patience and Emotional Support
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Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
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When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, his and your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
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When facing hardships (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested etc.
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Be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of Paradise.
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When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment.
15. Support in Obedience to Allah
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Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
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Encourage him to pray at night.
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Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
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16. Good Housekeeping
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Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged
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Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom
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Perfect food (preparation) and prepare healthy foods
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Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing
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Learn how to raise children properly
17. Preservation of Finances and the Family
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Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
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Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
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Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc.
